This is a belated Mother's Day post, I suppose. Mother's Day came and went in the swirl of daily life and ministry and I hadn't thought to write a post. Our church men served barbacoa (bull's head tacos), salsas, tortillas, and ice cream bars for the ladies. We ladies had our own special table where we ate, laughed, talked about family, hormones, and raising children. While we were doing all this giggling, children and grandchildren were coming up to the table asking for help with their plates..or wanting to sit in laps..which we laughed some more about our 'day off'.
Our Jonathan was born 6 1/2 weeks early. I guess he was in a hurry to get here. That was the last time he was in a hurry to do anything. This boy takes his time in-every-single-thing-he-does. I have to force myself to not rush him on some things. I have to bite back the words, "Hurry up!". He is one that 'takes joy in the journey'. He loves to 'stop and smell the roses'. He has taken his time in growing up. He is not one who rushes headlong into anything. He's patient. He's kind. He's slow to anger. He's a helper and an encourager. He is one who 'shines from within'. I read a blog post about this once about a little girl who felt different than anyone else. She felt that while everyone else wanted to pick the butterfly as their favorite, she wanted something else to be her favorite. She liked the firefly. Yet, she was almost afraid to like it because it made her feel different. It set her apart.
Jonathan struggled for a little while in his early teen years with feeling different than others. He's not into sports and he's a bit shy around new company. He's into books. Old books. He likes to study Latin and Greek word roots and will be studying Biblical Greek in the coming year. Because he wants to. He's not into military games, but he will read about war heroes. He's not into rock or country music, but he'll listen to Celtic, Classical, Christian, and Christmas music (old Christmas music), Western theme songs, Disney songs from movies. His reading level is deep and his comedy loves, however, range from Barney in The Andy Griffith Show, Granny from The Beverly Hillbillies, The Little Rascals and a host of others. His interests are a 'mixed bag' for certain. He's in the process of writing a book about a kid who finds out he comes from a very large family, is kidnapped, ends up on an island, and discovers he is the rightful royal heir to that island..and I don't know what all else. Bent over paper with pen in hand I find him many times scratching out words on a page, figuring out this main character's royal genealogy....One morning, I found him in his room with 2 science books open in his lap. He was looking to know who reigned after Queen Victoria and who in her family carried the hemophilia gene like she did. Another morning, he was reading about an explosion that hit Siberia in 1908 that had flattened everything around the area. He has never met anyone that shares the same excitement over things like these. At 18 years old, he's past much of the self-doubting now and realizes his differences are what makes him independent. And strong. And that he is, indeed, likeable! And that each trait he has is building on a foundation to what he will do and be in the future. He's working on learning to drive, finishing his senior year in high school (homeschool), and has plans to attend the local community college in town to study Electrical Engineering Technology. He hopes with his new found knowledge he will be able to repair old radios, old machines, old clocks, and be able to take these things apart and see how they work and restore them to their former glory. He's one to pick the firefly as his favorite.
On Rachel's website, Hands Free Mama, she wrote a post entitled, "Children Who Shine From Within". She compared her daughter to the firefly and writes,
"The Butterflies will be noticed. So brilliant. So colorful. Their talents so obvious. But let us not forget the Fireflies. Their triumphs are quiet and unsuspecting.
Their gifts might even go completely unnoticed."
Their gifts might even go completely unnoticed."
This is my Jonathan and this I read aloud to him when I came across it. It pin-pointed some traits to him and he was able to relate. I think it helped him reckon with his 'differences' and that his quiet ways of caring, his love of study, his love of all things old, antique, and ancient, are things that make him incredible. He's like his father, this one. This firefly trait comes naturally. The quiet leadership, the steady supporter, the thinker, the dreamer. And while Jonathan is by no means quiet, his inner strength quietly runs deep.
An excerpt: (http://www.handsfreemama.com/2014/04/29/children-who-shine-from-within/)
"A firefly might be a seat saver on the bus so someone doesn't have to go to the intimidating back row.