Thursday, March 20, 2014

Care-giving Graces...

Beatitudes for Friends of the Aged

Blessed are they who understand my faltering steps and palsied hand;

Blessed are they who know that my ears today must strain to catch the things they say.

Blessed are they who seem to know that my eyes are dim and my wits are slow.

Blessed are they who looked away when my coffee spilled at table today.

Blessed are they with a cheery smile who stop to chat for a little while.

Blessed are they who never say “You've told me that story twice today.”

Blessed are they who know the ways to bring back memories of yesterdays.

Blessed are they who make it known that I’m loved, respected, and not alone.

Blessed are they who ease the days on my journey Home in loving ways.

-Poem by Esther M. Walker

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Getting My Act Together in 2014

I had a list of things I wanted to accomplish in the new year. As in...

* Exercise more (walking and, not the weird stuff..just the stretching..'cuz, the older I'm getting, the more stiff my body feels. 'Time to get moving!)

*Drink more water (as in 2 quarts a day. Yes. 2 quarts. To start.)

*Sleep more (I need more than 7 hours, I'm finding.)

*Read more (Just for the fun of it.)

*Make all those 'make ahead' meals' I see on the internet. (Really?! What was I thinking?)

*Make more things from scratch in the kitchen (I've been reading up on what's really in our foods..and yuck.)

*Have a regular homeschool schedule (Ha! Right.)

*Write letters to friends and family instead of e-mailing all the time. As in..the old fashioned way. Well, how 'bout I type them out and print on nice stationary? That will work.)

It's only March, and I am just now getting around to some of these. Here's the update:

*I've been walking with Jonathan and Zap (our dog) @ 3-4 days a week. I just started the
yoga stretching and ...I'm sore. very. sore.)

*I fill a 2 quart pitcher of water at night and put orange or grapefruit slices in them for flavor. The water is nice and cold and flavored in the morning.  So far, so good. 

*Sleep...working on that one. I find either I need to go to sleep waaay earlier or I need to sleep later. Normally, the latter is happening. I'm trying to give myself  'permission' to sleep when I know I need it. 

* I've read one book so far...Sometimes, it's hard to just sit down and read when you have a running to-do list (my downfall..too many lists).

*Haven't managed the make ahead meals, yet. Maybe I need to stop reading so many homemaking blogs. I have too many ideas floating around in my head. 

*I have been making more things from scratch and preparing healthier meals. I've been doing a lot of reading and changing of diet. It has helped with decreasing my husband's migraines...and he's dropped 15 pounds. Me? Not.A.One. (Insert frustrated scream here.) 

*Homeschool schedule. Now why did I think that was going to happen? My friend Carolyn (Hi, Carolyn!) always says, "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans." Yep. Living with my dad (Hi, Dad...he reads this blog, too) blessing. Yes. It is. But sometimes, he has other plans. He really likes for us to get school done. He does. But. He's building a train set that he and my son, Jonathan, love to do together. With the weather being nice, it's time for yard work..and book work gets put on the back burner. Not the books, though. Jonathan is a reader. We can't keep books in his hands fast enough. What's he reading now? Gone With the Wind. We watched the movie on TV awhile ago and he just had to read the book. It's a big one and it doesn't intimidate him at all. Also, on his reading list lately has been the Wizard of Oz books (yes, there's more than one..and if you want to know the background history, just ask him.) as well as Anne of Green Gables (all of them)...So while book work sometimes gets shoved aside for quality time with Grandpa, books are in his hands any other time he's not busy. While Algebra doesn't get done every day, it's ok. Jonathan is learning how to measure and cut wood for a project. He's learning how to put a train track together and build a city around it. He's learning how to plant roses. Learning is learning...And I'm learning how to relax a little and not get stressed out when things don't go the way I had listed it out the night before. Well..sort of. Getting there.

*I've written (actually, typed) a few letters and they were received with joy. I know because the receiver of the 2 letters I've written so far told me so. I need to keep at it. 

One thing in all of this, is to not be such a bully to myself. I beat myself up when I feel I just can't 'keep up'. I say mean things to myself about my weight and my lack of ability/discipline to do anything about it. Getting my act together in 2014 is not going to be about all the list of things I want to get done and then becoming frustrated when I can't finish them.  I'm realizing that while I like my to-do lists, sometimes they get in the way of truly living. My many to-do lists and to-prepare lists sometimes get in the way of the good pleasure of a book. The lists get in the way of pleasant walks with a great boy and his sweet dog.  The lists get in the way of time with my dad building, creating, planting. I'm going to be kinder to myself this year. I'm going to take care of myself by walking more, eating/drinking healthier, sleeping when I need to, focusing on life and not the lists, and enjoying more the people (and dog) in my life. Getting my act together....focusing on life and not the lists. I like that. 

(My other pages on this blog have been updated, as well -finally.)