Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Beauty Profiling

I have always struggled with what looks good on me. I see TV commercials about 'fashion', and it's just not me. And as a Christian, I don't follow Hollywood and all that mess.  My step mom never really helped me much..other than to say that black looked horrible on me. I'm sure many girls grow up just kind of floundering through.. trying to look like everyone else in school. Even with makeup, I didn't have much help. I always felt self-conscious around other women..especially confident women because I was not-so-confident. I am more of a 'in the background' kind of girl. Even in high school, when it came to plays, I would rather be designing the set than be the one out front. 

Well, sometime earlier this year, I came across a site called Dressing Your Truth, a beauty profiling course. I don't agree with them theologically, but the beauty profiling information has merit. According to this course, there are 4 types of women: 

  • Type 1: The Bright, Animated Woman
    You have a light, upward energy. You brighten a room and easily bring a smile to others’ faces. People enjoy the gift of your naturally fun-loving and hopeful nature.
  • Type 2: The Subtle, Soft Woman
    You have a calm expressiveness about yourself. People like being around you because you help them slow down and experience peacefulness in life.
  • Type 3: The Rich, Dynamic Woman
    You are naturally dynamic, sure, and purposeful. You have the gift of action, and seek to constantly move those around you forward to a desired outcome.
    • Type 4: The Bold, Striking Woman
      You are reflective, concise, and clear. You have a natural gift for perfecting things and showing others how something can be made better. You exude an energy that is seen by others as serene.

While you may identify with all the Types to varying degrees, you’ll find that you have a dominant natural expression in one of them.

How Do I Discover My Type?

Learning your personal Beauty Profile is simple and intuitive.
You don’t have to take a test. Nobody will tell you which Type you are. Carol’s book, Discover Your Personal Beauty Profile, interactive online Beauty Profiling course, and other resources will give you in-depth information to help you recognize your own natural movement. As you learn about the different Types’ body language, facial features, shopping habits, and other telling attributes, you’ll discover your own personal Beauty Profile.
You know who you are! Beauty Profiling just helps you know yourself better and honor and love your true nature in a way you never have before.

I signed up for the online course really not knowing what I would learn. I thought I was a Type 3 all along, but after talking it over with John and showing him the different types, he firmly thought I was a Type 2! Some key words: careful, detailed, meticulous, modest, neat, pleasing, romantic, semi-formal, sensitive, soft, subtle, sweet, traditional...there are much more..That made a whole lot more sense to me than the traits of a Type 3..dynamic, sure, active, intense...that is NOT me. 

In looking at the colors for the Type 2 that I am, the type of clothing (comfortable, flowing, soft) it made a lot of sense why those collared blouses in my closet stayed there and were not worn! I never liked blouses/shirts with collars, but I bought them anyway, thinking that it's what was dressy for church, yet I never was totally comfortable in them. I got rid of them and anything that I knew was not comfortable. Going through this course, has really 'solidified' the things that I knew about myself and helped me realize that it was ok to not be like everyone else. I have friends that are dynamic, hysterically funny, sure of themselves, and I always felt like an outsider. But I don't have to be..I am liked just the way I am and am not expected to be like them.  

After completing the on-line course, I bought the Dressing Your Truth course for Type 2 for my birthday last May. The course is very thorough in helping you know how to do your hair. You'd think that at 41  yrs old, I would know this by now..but when my hair turned curly after my second son was born 9 years ago, I've been at a loss ever since. The course recommends that if you have curly hair, wear it curly! Oh the freedom! What stress every morning to straighten it!..and the course gives you tips on fixing and styling. It takes me @ 10-15 minutes to do my hair now instead of 30-40!  There are courses on makeup, jewelry, accessorizing, what shape eye glasses look best for your face...a TON of information that I wished I had known years ago. Shopping no longer makes me want to cry because I know what I'm looking for and I know what to stay away from because it's just not 'me'. 

We recently went to a conference in NM that is a dressy affair. It's an annual event, so I knew that most women would be wearing dress suits, blouses with collars, straight skirts...all things that are uncomfortable for me. Every other year, I wore the same kinds of clothes they were wearing..and was uncomfortable and self-conscious the whole time. This year, however, I knew that I was not going that route again. I wore a comfortable blouse/shirt (with no collar), a flow-y type skirt, comfortable shoes, and felt great and more confident because I knew I was comfortable, yet still dressy. I realized too that so many women wore black!! According to the course, there are chromas or shades of black for each type..Type 2 is more of a grey or charcoal grey...a soft color. Seriously, not everyone should be wearing black. 

No, I don't have any before/after picture...I really should do that. I do feel more confident more and more as I 'dress my truth'. They are having a promotion going on right now called, 'Spread the Love' for anyone interested. If you buy the course, with this link, I think I get credit for it. I know I paid $99.00 for it and I believe that is the price now. If you're 'stuck' and unsure of yourself and are looking for some help, I believe this will be an aide in pointing you the right direction. 

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Finding the Knowledge of God

 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. Proverbs 4:7,8

My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:  For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck. My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not.
 Proverbs 1:8-10

I haven't posted in awhile. We've had a lot of things going on this summer and the writing just didn't 'come to me' much. In the event of Jonathan turning 16, I've had a lot of thoughts running through my head. More and more he is becoming a man and I feel the 'crunch' of time in training him. He is becoming more man-like than child-like every day. I am working myself out of job little by little and I wonder if I have done enough.  There are so many things I want for my son; so many things I want him to possess ~ wisdom, honor, a sense of responsibility,  a sound heart and mind, thoughtfulness, kindness, humility, strength in values,  a man who lives  in grace. How do I go about instilling these?

My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee; So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding; Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures; Then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God. Proverbs 25: 1-5

Sounds like a good recipe to me. 
Receive my words + hide my commandments [incline ear (unto wisdom) + apply heart (to understanding)] + cry after knowledge + lift your voice for understanding + seek wisdom as you would for silver + search for wisdom as for hid treasures = understanding the fear of the Lord + finding the knowledge of God. 

Whew! What a long equation! My son LOVES stories of buried treasure, buried ships (The sinking of the Titanic is a subject of great interest to him.), buried cities (the city of Pompeii..another interesting topic of conversation for him)...If he searched after wisdom as he searches for more information on anything buried he is interested, what kind of man would he be? (And this is not just for him. I'm feeling a bit convicted myself after this study.)...I never thought of bringing this up to him..but it will for sure be a topic of conversation soon.

 I have been known to look up words so I looked up the word, 'search'.

Definition of SEARCH

transitive verb
: to look into or over carefully or thoroughly in an effort to find or discover something: asa : to examine in seeking something <searched the north field>b : to look through or explore by inspecting possible places of concealment or investigating suspicious circumstancesc : to read thoroughly : checkespecially : to examine a public record or register for information about <search land titles> (side note from me: to examine the Bible..which is a public record!)d : to examine for articles concealed on the persone : to look at as if to discover or penetrate intention or nature
: to uncover, find, or come to know by inquiry or scrutiny —usually used with out
intransitive verb
: to look or inquire carefully <searched for the papers>
: to make painstaking investigation or examination

He knows how to search for information. He pours over books and articles on the Titanic. He scrutinizes the photos of the findings of Pompeii. He listens intently to stories of the World Wars. Now to apply the 'pouring over' and the 'looking into' and the 'examining' to find the principle thing..We are not done training yet. I know I have not 'arrived' at this. It is a process..always searching, always looking, always getting. If the Lord wills, I have a few years left with him. My husband jokes that I am still training him to be a good husband for the future , but I think that will come if he follows the equation above. He has time. We advise him to wait until college to look. Wait until he knows God's plan for his life. And..wait until he as a job. Crazy advice in this day and age, some people have told us, where 3rd graders are already boy/girl crazy. But here's the thing. Wisdom is the principle thing. And in time, he will have 'gotten' some wisdom, and will have 'gotten' some understanding in life. And it will bring honour. Have you ever heard the expression, 'Keep the main thing the main thing'? Well, my theme for this 16th year of life for my son is to go after some 'getting'...some getting of wisdom and some getting of understanding. Sound too serious? Life is serious. Our Christian life is serious. That's not to say that there is no fun in life..there is. But to be sober, and to be vigilant (I. Peter 5:8) is a part of life...a part of the getting of understanding. There are men in his life that are great influences and great examples and role models. But as his mother who spends the most time with's time to work a little more on the getting of the principle thing. be continued....

Be careful to leave your sons well instructed rather than rich, for the hopes of the instructed are better than the wealth of the ignorant. ~Epictetus

Deuteronomy 6:7

Here are some really good articles about raising our kids: